Thanks for all the comments. I hope I didn't give the impression my husband is some domineering tyrant, he is very caring and supportive and that is why I think he may be accepting of some new adventures. He is a couple years older than me and may be loosing some of his stamina, maybe I should bring this up? I like the idea of pointing out black men I find interesting, in fact it has come up already. I have a girlfriend with a black boyfriend who we have socialized with, and I have mentioned how attractive he is to my husband. My girlfriend is kind of wild, and has privately told me how exciting things are with him. When I mentioned him to my husband he just said he thought he was kind of a player, but they probably get along well that way. Since he brought up the possibility of a threesome maybe I'll bring them up as prospects. I'm sure he would jump at the chance to be with my friend but may be threatened by all the men she has been with, but it would give me the chance to bring up her black boyfriend. I have also mentioned Ryan's (my co-worker) flirting, just some of the more innocent stuff like how he's always complimenting my clothes. My husband has commented a few times about some of my more daring work outfits that he bets Ryan will like that one. I'll ask him if he thinks i should encourage Ryan's flirting.
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