I've had my share of "fake experiences" on sites like this one, but here it hasn't been so much fakes as "flakes". You don't even get to hard confirming that they're fakes because they flake out on you first (which means they probably are fakes but . . . . ). I mean, you've been communicating with somebody, and then when you end up in their town and are interested in meeting, then all of a sudden they somehow stop receiving your messages. They missed those, but they got all the ones before and after :
Or, if you suggest it's time for phone contact or something other than a computer connection, they evade the request and/or don't respond.
The truth is that it's easy for people to be somebody who they are not online. And so guess what? That's exactly what millions of people do. Fakes and flakes! Using pictures of "themselves" that aren't of them at all. Fake profiles. False stories. You press them on whether or not the pictures they posted are really of them, but they never answer directly, if at all. And if they do answer, it's often with a lie. Even a stupid one.
I "buddied" somebody here a while back without knowing they had been called out for being a fake a year or so earlier. I discovered the accusation while reading back through some old posts. The accuser alleged that the pics being used belonged to somebody else on the internet (like from FaceBook or something) and even had the real name of the person in the photos. My "bud" never responded to the accusations back then. So, I asked my "buddy" about it. Know what "she" (who really knows) said? She said the pictures were really of her, but that she was using a different name here because she didn't want her family to find out! Does that make any sense?! If they're your pictures, then your family would know it's you as soon as they saw the pics, regardless of the name you're using! Who do you think you're talking to
?
And then again, I think there's another subset of posters. That would be people who are in fact "real", but who would be absolutely embarrassed to meet because they've said some very revealing things online about themselves and how they think. Things they would probably never reveal to anybody else in "real life" out of fear of being shamed. They have no intention of ever meeting anybody from this site, but they will tease and carry-on and so forth. So, they come here and post all kinds of shit. But they won't meet anybody from here ever. Instead, they
might choose to meet some black dick in other ways . . . in more "normal ways" . . . which allows them to continue to hide that aspect of their personality that they have expressed here. At least until they might feel it's safe to expose a little bit more about themselves to a new person. Avoid the shame and potential backlash to your sexual arousal over N-word sex. Have your cake and eat it too.
Me, I don't have the time for it. There's so much deception on the internet that I rarely make much of an effort to try to meet anybody from sites like this one, or even from so-called "legit" dating sites. Too many fakes and too many flakes. Too much time wasted. If I feel like I've made a connection with somebody
AND they are in my town or I'm traveling to theirs . . . then maybe. I might try to go to phone first. But whatever I do, it won't be much effort expended on my part to start, and it's got to be something convenient for me to do. Too many fakes and too many flakes! And if I give somebody a chance, they have
ONE time to fake or flake on me . . . and then it's
GOODBYE!
Note: It would be nice if some people here would at least respond to PMs . . . that would be a simple start to establishing that at least your not just another "fake" or "flake" . . . don't you think ? I've seen other brothas here who note how they have sent PMs that go unanswered by "women" claiming to be down with the black dick. Oh, but the gays and the sissies . . . you don't even have to PM them because they're the ones PMing a black . . . what a surprise !!
